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FireboltMoonstone35
So basically I'm a guy who is weird :D, Brisbane, with dreams like everyone else, i enjoy being with my friends. i love to read, and listen to music. i wish some people were closer to me, and some I'd never have to see ever again. Feel free to say hey, i wont bite :). I love technology, and all things odd and unique. I write a bit of poetry and make friends very easily.
BTW - If I don't follow you back instantly, settle, I will when I get to a computer, I follow everyone back :), my blog runs on a queue, so it goes on it's own :)
Making friends.
Foreword. I am writing this mainly for a couple of friends of mine who just seem to not be that great at making friends, or who don’t have the confidence. Feel free to try it yourself :)
1. Just say hello.
Really, it’s that simple. Sometimes a simple hello is the best way to get someone to talk to you. You don’t need to try and work out something clever to get them to talk. Sometimes, people won’t reply, and that’s cool too, after all some days people just don’t feel up to making conversation. Don’t take it as a rejection, take it as a step forward that you had the guts to at least say hello, and can then use it to make future encounters easier. Remember, confidence is key. You don’t need to be the most confident person around, just take that shakiness out of your voice, hold yourself straight and maintain eye contact, I’m not very confident at all of myself, but that doesn’t stop me, no one knows what is in your head so you have that to work with :). I’ve found that telling yourself that you’ve known them for ages helps in approaching them, even if you don’t. However, don’t approach them like you would your best friend, that’s a special bond. Also when walking up to someone, approaching people from the side is by far the least threatening way to walk up to someone as the front is confronting and the back is deceptive.
If they don’t really want to talk, they may be like:
Mmm…no…:
Remember, every rejection is a step forward:
2. Ask them about themselves.
Contrary to what most people say, most of us enjoy talking about ourselves, even if we don’t notice. It’s not because we are narcissistic or care about only ourselves, but because someone is showing an interest in us. If I asked you about your favourite band, you could talk on length about them, not only because they are awesome, but because I just took an interest in something you do. All you really need to do, is ask ‘how are you?’ it’s that simple. Then continue the conversation with things like ‘what are your study majors?’, ‘what school did/do you attend?’, ‘those shoes look good! where did you get them?’. The list goes on and on :), just show a keen interest and hazzah! you have got a conversation. Compliments also work really well in starting/keeping conversations going :), just don’t over do it if you are looking to make friends with people of the opposite sex and aren’t interested in anything more :). Throw in a few things about yourself too to help them get to know the amazing person you are :).
This may be an example of over doing it:
Maybe the right kinda thing:
Might not be best to put out there about yourself:
This might be good though!:
3. Names.
If you’re like me, and forget the crucial, ‘what’s your name?’, DON’T PANIC. I’ve found that simply saying ‘oh, pardon me, I completely forgot, I’m <your name>’. It’s the power of reciprocation, if you give someone something, they are more than likely to give you something back :), unless they’re an asshole, in which case, they probably aren’t worth being friends with. I also found that if you forget someones name you can do creative things like asking to see their ID photo when they open their wallet or asking them for their phone number and getting them to put it in your phone.
Might help to get the ball rolling:
Might not be the best way to ask:
4. Insulting.
Probably not the best thing to get into upon first meeting them. However self criticism such as ‘watch out, I’m uncoordinated’ or ‘I can’t draw well’ shows that you are able to acknowledge that you aren’t perfect, and that you are a decent person to know. Don’t over do it though, else you may look like you aren’t proud of yourself at all, and that’s no good for you :(.
Probably not the best idea:
Their possible reaction:
This might work though:
5. Seeing them again.
If you want to see them again, after all that awesome conversing, you need to get some details, unless you previously got their phone number of course :). The best way I’ve found, is to go ‘can I add you on facebook?’ or even ‘I have to go, but I’ll text you later if you want to hang out? What’s your number?’. Be polite of course :).
This is by no means a definitive guide. I am merely sharing what I know and have found to work for me. Good luck! ♥
